Guys like girls who flirt because those actions tell them several important things. One, is that she finds him attractive. (Who doesn't like to be validated?) The second is that she is available. Women who flirt are often the ones who get the dates.

What is flirting? Some people think it is overt sexually suggestive behavior. That is why many women are afraid to think about flirting or to try it. Some women may choose to flirt in a flagrant way, but it isn't necessary. If you want to date some great guys, you need to know that flirting is communication that involves silent body language, facial expressions, and conversation that encourages guys. Appropriately done, flirting is important dating language.

Here are some flirting techniques which may bring you more dates:

* Flirting with facial expressions

Eye contact, smiling, holding his gaze, and looking away and then looking back all send him the message that he has caught your eye. It says that you might like to have a conversation if you two get near.

* Flirting with body language

Toes pointing towards him, heart facing him, and a flick of your hair speaks volumes. Also, moving towards him from across a crowded room says you want to talk and you're willing to take a risk to get close enough to hear the sound of his voice.

* Flirting and talking

When you get near enough to talk, ask a question and then listen. Guys love girls who actually hear them, ask good questions, and respond with conversation that shows you really were listening. Research shows that men talk more than women on a date, so if he has a good listener, he will be flattered.

* Compliments are flirtatious

Find something you genuinely like about the guy and tell him. Tell him you like his jacket, or the way his shirt matches the color of his eyes, or the way he listened when you talked. Tell him you love his sense of humor. If you really want to leave a lasting impression, touch his arm when you give him this compliment. However...don't overdo the touching. You don't want to come across as needy.

Flirting is most effective when you back it up with substance

If you have been flirting with a guy, exchanging funny stories, and sharing a little about yourself, the real punchline comes when you tell him what you do or what you care about. If you say you are living in your parents' basement, watching TV all day, and going out to bars at night, then all of your gestures will not seem too significant to him. He knows and you know that you are looking for someone to give you a life. Guys are enchanted with girls who flirt appropriately and who are of substance. What are you working for? What cause do you love? How do you serve others? What captures your heart? What have you accomplished that you are building on? What are your plans for the future?

Flirting is the language of dating. It doesn't have to be X-rated. It just needs to be friendly. You can do it.