Mar 31, 2008
Guys Like Girls Who FlirtBy Tonja Weimer
Guys like girls who flirt because those actions tell them several important things. One, is that she finds him attractive. (Who doesn't like to be validated?) The second is that she is available. Women who flirt are often the ones who get the dates.
What is flirting? Some people think it is overt sexually suggestive behavior. That is why many women are afraid to think about flirting or to try it. Some women may choose to flirt in a flagrant way, but it isn't necessary. If you want to date some great guys, you need to know that flirting is communication that involves silent body language, facial expressions, and conversation that encourages guys. Appropriately done, flirting is important dating language.
Here are some flirting techniques which may bring you more dates:
* Flirting with facial expressions
Eye contact, smiling, holding his gaze, and looking away and then looking back all send him the message that he has caught your eye. It says that you might like to have a conversation if you two get near.
* Flirting with body language
Toes pointing towards him, heart facing him, and a flick of your hair speaks volumes. Also, moving towards him from across a crowded room says you want to talk and you're willing to take a risk to get close enough to hear the sound of his voice.
* Flirting and talking
When you get near enough to talk, ask a question and then listen. Guys love girls who actually hear them, ask good questions, and respond with conversation that shows you really were listening. Research shows that men talk more than women on a date, so if he has a good listener, he will be flattered.
* Compliments are flirtatious
Find something you genuinely like about the guy and tell him. Tell him you like his jacket, or the way his shirt matches the color of his eyes, or the way he listened when you talked. Tell him you love his sense of humor. If you really want to leave a lasting impression, touch his arm when you give him this compliment. However...don't overdo the touching. You don't want to come across as needy.
Flirting is most effective when you back it up with substance
If you have been flirting with a guy, exchanging funny stories, and sharing a little about yourself, the real punchline comes when you tell him what you do or what you care about. If you say you are living in your parents' basement, watching TV all day, and going out to bars at night, then all of your gestures will not seem too significant to him. He knows and you know that you are looking for someone to give you a life. Guys are enchanted with girls who flirt appropriately and who are of substance. What are you working for? What cause do you love? How do you serve others? What captures your heart? What have you accomplished that you are building on? What are your plans for the future?
Flirting is the language of dating. It doesn't have to be X-rated. It just needs to be friendly. You can do it.
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By James V
Flirting is a great fun first of all; besides it is a very important and unique aspect of human interaction – universal and essential to relationships. Flirting has been there since Adam and Eve’s time and is present in any culture, nationality, society – all around the world. It is simply in human nature and it forms the core of interactions between the sexes.
According to some evolutionary psychologists flirting is the foundation of all civilization as is known to us today. With superior intelligence, the human race makes use of its large-sized brain in combining with complex language to distinguish itself from the animal kingdom and can be thought of as being a device used to promote courtship. Much like the tail of a peacock, flirting tries to attract as well as retain partners in sex, which is consciously or subconsciously every human’s ultimate aim.
All human activity has its unwritten laws of etiquette, including flirting: these rules may guide where, when and with who to flirt as well as the manner in which flirting has to be done. We all follow these unwritten rules, even unconsciously. Flirting with the wrong person or at inappropriate places is usually viewed by people as breach of etiquette.
Flirting also involves understanding the cues in the partner’s body language. Understanding female overtures is quite a complex task and very often friendliness may be mistaken for sexual interest. It also is not considered acceptable in many Puritanical societies, so this results in a fear of giving off the wrong signals and thus impede their natural playful and often, harmless flirtation capabilities. This has led to need for adequate social research into the phenomena so as to be better able to deal with its ramifications.
The most appropriate places for flirting are generally parties and other similar informal occasions. Celebrations and social functions and gatherings also lead to a lot of flirting, which in this case is considered to be very natural and is expected to happen. However, it should not be taken as an excuse to abandon all norms of acceptable social behavior. Everyone involved in flirting must still adhere to social etiquette and know the limits of ‘letting the hair down’.
By Ron Zvagelsky
The topic of flirting has been the subject of a number of scientific studies. In fact research has shown that flirting is done in every culture around the world, regardless of race or language. It is first important to realize that flirting is a basic form of behavior. By flirting, humans show that they are interested in specific partners, and if they did not do this, there would not be a way for humans to reproduce. Consequently, the human species would soon cease to exist. To flirt properly, it is first important to know the best places to flirt.
In our society of today, flirting at the wrong time or place can be inappropriate. It is important to know when flirting is a good idea. Perhaps one of the best places for flirting is parties. In addition to parties, any type of social event of celebration is generally acceptable when it comes to flirting. More often than not, flirting is not only acceptable at these events, but it will often be expected. These events are excellent places to find potential dates. While many people realize this, few understand why. The reason why parties are great places to flirt is because of a process called "cultural remission."
Cultural remission can be defined as an environment where rules and restrictions that would normally be placed on members of society are relaxed for a certain period of time. However, this does not mean there are no rules. Unfortunately, many people find this out the hard way at celebration at Mardi Gras, where getting to wild can get you arrested and thrown in jail. However, flirting in ways that would normally be restricted in everyday life would be allowed at parties or other celebrations. It should not be surprising to note that alcohol and flirting are intimately connected.
The reason for this is because alcohol is the substance of choice at places where flirting is commonly allowed. Some of these places are parties, pubs, clubs, bars, and even restaurants. A number of studies have shown that not only is alcohol connected to flirting, but it actually makes you more effective at flirting when you are using it. However, you must not go overboard when you are using alcohol, or you could end up in serious trouble. Another great place for flirting are colleges and universities.
Ron Zvagelsky has a degree in Business Administration from the University of Southern California. He graduated Magna Cum Laude in May 2006. He is currently the Chief Executive Officer of PlanJam – an interactive website offering dating advice and helping you plan a date.
By Amy Waterman
Flirting is a whole-body experience. It engages the eyes, tickles the mind, and awakens the senses.
While you may think that flirting is something we learn, there is plenty of evidence to suggest that we are born knowing how to flirt. Flirting behaviors are exhibited by dozens of cultures and animals from birds to fruit flies.
Research into human mating behaviors at bars and clubs have revealed that successful flirtations all go through a similar sequence of events. Nonverbal cues such as arching brows, swaying hips, and tossing hair all cue a man that you're interested. Once one of you breaks the ice by speaking, the other person has the option of turning towards you, acknowledging your presence, or turning away.
If it's the former, and all goes well, your conversation will lead to deeper interest as both of you lean forward and your gazes wander from the face to other parts of the body. The sense of touch becomes involved as you touch his hand in empathy, or he puts an arm gently on your back to guide you through the crowd.
As the night wears on, your bodies will eventually become "synchronized." In other words, your body position and movements will mimic the other person's. When he glances down, you will glance down. When you pick up your glass to take a sip, he will pick up his. At this point, you can congratulation yourself on a successful flirtation: you're both clearly interested, and it's time for exchanging phone numbers.
What does this research mean to us? It's all very well to know how flirtation works, but how can we nudge it along?
Today I'm going to give you three flirting techniques backed up by science that are guaranteed to get you to that initial conversation with a man.
1. The Best Flirtation Technique of All Time
First of all, what's the single most successful technique that women can use to invite a man to approach?
(a) Ask for his help with something?Got your answer?
(b) Toss your hair while gazing straight at him?
(c) Dance seductively by yourself?
(d) Give him a big smile?
The winner, hands-down, is (d) Smile.
It's amazing that something so simple could have such an amazing effect, but men around the world will tell you the same thing. When men are getting up the courage to approach a woman, most will pick the average, friendly-looking girl over the beautiful, bored ice princess.
Approachability matters. A smile shows a man that you're friendly, that you're willing to acknowledge him, and that he won't have to fear getting rejected when he approaches you.
Plus, a smile puts us in our best light. Studies have shown that women with open, friendly body language are perceived as more attractive than women with closed, negative body language. Quite simply, a smile is the cheapest beauty treatment you can apply.
2. Do I See You?
Next, there's nothing more crucial to a developing flirtation than eye contact. This is where shyness can be a great hindrance. If you are too shy, embarrassed, or overwhelmed by butterflies to meet his gaze, he may think that you are rejecting him.
On the other end of the scale, a steady gaze is equally disconcerting. In the animal kingdom, a stare is a threatening nonverbal behavior, and human beings find it creepy. Someone who steals a glance at you is infinitely preferable to someone who checks you out brazenly without hiding his gaze.
Eye contact should be brief, a mere recognition that both of you see one another, and then ended by glancing down. After all, lowering your lashes can be as seductive as meeting his gaze in the first place, especially if it's accompanied by a shy smile. Up your seduction power by glancing at him again within thirty seconds to a minute after your first glance.
3. He Can't Flirt with You if He Can't Get to You!
Last of all, make sure that you are physically accessible to being approached! We often go out in groups, and there's nothing more intimidating to a man than a woman surrounded by a half-dozen of her best friends.
Very few men will feel comfortable braving the stares of your friends while he tries to chat you up, so if you are out with a group, give any secret admirers a chance to approach you when you're on your own. Excuse yourself to go to the bathroom, or go buy a round of drinks. Keep your body language open and scan the room with your eyes. Some women even dance by themselves to allow a man the opportunity to approach.
Similarly, don't be in such a hurry to get to your destination that you are gone before Mr. Perfect can raise his hand to wave you down. Take your time, enjoy the journey, and keep your eyes open and your head up. A woman who's strolling pleasantly and looking around her is much more approachable than a woman who's striding down the street, lost in thought.
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By James V
The internet has become available almost everywhere. People use it for work as well as for leisure. It has also become a form of bonding with your loved ones, allowing being in touch all the time, and exchanging e-mails and instant messages with each other. Quite a lot of people went a step further and started using the internet to flirt online.
Knowing the e-mail address of your love interest you can use it to you advantage, and flirt with him or her online by sending an e-mail. If you fear rejection use such websites that send an e-mail to the person you select, saying something like “Someone has a crush on You!” If that person guesses you, only then will your identity be revealed. However, be aware that those kinds of websites are mostly used by teenagers. If you are an adult, sending a direct e-mail to the person you are attracted to would have more chances for success. Otherwise, your crush may think that you are immature.
If you have the courage to send an e-mail yourself, then keep it very nonchalant, yet make sure the person gets aware of your interest. For example, when flirting online via e-mail you can say something like, “There’s going to be a concert next week. Will you be going?” This can be taken either platonically or romantically, so in the chance that your crush is going, you can make more of a romantic effort the actual day of the event.
Flirting through an instant messenger happens quite often nowadays. If you already have you crush’s screen name, you can use that knowledge to flirt online. Start by asking simple “get-to-know” you questions. Don’t push things too hard, though. Avoid initiating an IM conversation with your crush too often – about twice a week is good enough. Let your crush message you first.
Flirting online is definitely easier than flirting in a real life. You don’t feel that shy online, you feel more relaxed and can handle conversation much better than in real life. But don’t expect flirting online to be fun forever. One day you will have to meet and talk to your love interest face-to-face. Flirt online for a while to see if you two really connect, but then start planning some real dates!
Mar 26, 2008
Dangers of Flirting in Chat RoomsBy James V
Every chat room is a potential place for flirting of some sort or another. Flirting is a subtle way of showing someone you are interested in them without having to tell them specifically. Flirting is also a good way to see how the other person responds to your interest before having to put yourself on the line. Flirting online and, particularly, flirting in chat rooms is becoming a craze across the world, and a trend that all ages seem to be following.
There are no “flirting chat rooms” per se, but the definition appeared due to the fact that flirting often happens in chat rooms along with other topics of conversation. There are emoticons and action words that can emulate a conversation that would happen in real life, and hence people are able to flirt in chat rooms just as they would if the people were face to face. The advantage of flirting in chat rooms is that looks, inhibitions and fears tend not to get in the way, as the computer voids the interface between two people, taking care of the awkwardness one might feel approaching someone in person.
If you are determined to join flirting chat rooms, you have to consider the following information and some guidelines to keep you safe before flirting in a chat room.
You can find places to chat on the most common servers such as Yahoo, AOL, MSN and ICQ, but you can also look for smaller individual companies, as many places are now equipped with chat servers. Be aware that since communication online implies that anyone can be whoever they want to be, people are sometimes misleading in defining who they are. In other words, falling in love with the screen image may turn into a huge disappointment.
This doesn’t mean, however, that relationship can’t start online – it is just that the screen name and the person typing can be two totally different people, and you should very well realize it before you join a flirting chat room. Certain dangers are always associated with online communication. Children should use precaution when chatting in chat rooms, as there are various cases of pedophiles lurking in chat rooms, pretending to be a young male in his teenage years. Often times the screen name appears to be trustworthy, and people end up giving away too much information to a person they thought they trusted. Just be wise to keep personal information to yourself.
Chat room flirting sometimes leads to more than just flirting as well, and people can get caught up in a situation they fail to handle. There are notorious cases of seemingly harmless chat room flirting turning into full blown affairs, as over time online chatting becomes an addiction for a person. This can cause trouble in marriages and relationships, as many people consider chat room flirting to be a source of cheating.
If you are cool-headed enough not to get carried away with flirting in chat rooms, there is nothing harmful in it – in fact, it can be a great fun and a nice pastime. Just be prepared to stop the communication once you feel that the situation is turning into something ugly and unhealthy.
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By James V
A guy starts talking to you somewhere in a public place – he seems to be nice, but you are wondering: is he just being friendly or is actually flirting? Oftentimes you can’t figure out that at once. However, guy’s flirting is not so hard to detect if you know what cues to look out for.
Guy’s Flirting Often Enters Your Personal Space
Personal space specifically refers to 12 inches that surrounds any given person on all sides. Of course, there are some situations in which you can’t help but be in someone’s personal space, like if you are in a packed crowd. However, if you are in line at a coffee shop, and there are only four people in that line, no one has to be in each other’s personal space.
However, if you find yourself in such a situation, and the guy right behind you is in your personal space, this is a subtle but sure indicator of guy’s flirting. You see, people only get that close to someone they are attracted to, or someone that they feel comfortable being that close to.
Does Guy’s Flirting Mean Starting Conversation with You?
Well, yes and no. Some guys are just naturally flirtatious, and while they will readily start a conversation with a woman that they find attractive, sometimes they just like to flirt, and that’s it. Other guys are just naturally friendly, but you can tell if the guy is really flirting if he makes no mention of a significant other. Guys who are not flirting will mention that they have a significant other right away.
Guy’s Flirting Gives Away Subconscious Signs
Sometimes a guy will flirt in a subconscious way. This happens especially when the guy is rather shy, and not confident enough to show interest openly. He might also not be sure if you feel the same way. Look for little signs like him lightly touching your arm during a conversation, or prolonged eye contact.
Remember, dating can be just as stressful for guys as it can be for girls. While girls are always looking for that perfect guy, guys are stressing not only about finding the perfect girl, but also about how they can make the first move.
Encourage or Decline Guy’s Flirting?
If you found out that the guy is actually flirting, the question is should you encourage this flirting or politely decline it? Well, the decision is entirely up to you. Follow your heart – there is no better advice than that.
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By Lisa Paterson
Getting it right the first time is what counts when you’re flirting with the Flambé. While it’s the perfect way to flame the passion at an intimate dinner for two, it’s also the perfect way to set the kitchen ablaze. Having to call the fire brigade just when things are hotting up between you and your date, could be decidedly unromantic.
Flambé, which is a French term for ‘flamed’, is a culinary procedure that involves igniting foods that have been topped with a select liquor or liqueur. This causes the volatile alcohol vapor to burn, imparting a rich flavor to the food. A correctly executed flambé creates a blue tinted flame, which has a rather dramatic effect.
If you are inexperienced in the art of flambéing, some practice in walking the fine line between flamboyance and caution will hold you in good stead on D-Day.
Keep these points in mind before you begin your flambéing expedition:
• A flambé pan should always have deep, rounded sides so that the flame stays contained within the pan and a long handle to keep your hand safely away from the burning flame. Flambé pans are generally made of heavy duty copper or stainless-steel.
• 80-proof liquors and liqueurs give you the perfect effect and taste. High proof alcohol is highly flammable and could result in an out-of-control fire, whereas a lower alcohol content will not ignite at all.
• The selected liquor or liqueur used should be heated very, very slowly over a low flame till it reaches 130 degrees F. Take care that the alcohol does not reach its boiling point of 175 degrees F. The alcohol will burn off when it reaches boiling point and will not ignite.
• The liquor or liqueur should compliment the food that is being cooked. Fruit flavored liqueurs are ideal for flambéing desserts and fruits whereas meat would taste better with cognac or whisky.
• Champagne, beer and most table wines do not contain enough alcohol are not suitable for flambéing.
• Adding a dash of cinnamon at the right moment can enhance the effect as cinnamon also burns beautifully.
• Though shaking the pan vigorously is quite effective at dousing the flame, it is advisable to keep a large lid handy to smother the flames if need be.
• Avoid pouring liquor directly from the bottle when the pan is in the vicinity of an open flame. Flames have a tendency of following the alcohol vapors to the bottle, which could explode.
• Once the liquor is added to the pan, it should be lit immediately or else the foods will absorb the raw alcohol, adopting a harsh flavor.
• The alcohol fumes should always be ignited at the edge of the pan; not the center. Make sure you keep your face away from the pan when lighting the fumes.
Time to Flambé
Now that you know the fundamentals of flambéing, you’re ready to begin. Heat the liquor in a saucepan. When it reaches the optimum temperature pour it over the food in the flambé pan. Make sure the food has not gone cold or else it will lower the temperature of the alcohol and the flambé will not light. Ignite the flambé immediately, using a long match or a barbeque lighter. The dish will light up beautifully! Though the magic will last just a few minutes, your date is sure to be very impressed with your flambéing prowess.
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By Maurice Tate
Many of the same techniques that work for normal flirting work well in online flirting. After all, most relationships begin with some sort of flirting. In fact, online flirting works very well at developing your flirting skills, because most men lack confidence to flirt at all.
There are many more men on online dating sites than women. An attractive women gets a lot of emails from a lot of men. She has to sort out the real men from the wimps.
One great way of separating yourself from most men is to take a chance and learn to flirt and tease well in a very funny way.
Flirting is an art that requires oozing confidence without being over the top. If you go too far, she will label you "sleazy" If you don't go far enough, she will label you "wimpy". So how do you achieve that point half way between sleazy and wimpy?
When online flirting you do not have the advantage of using using your eye contact or your body language. All you have is a computer an internet connection and membership in an online dating site.
In some ways that is an advantage to be online as you can try new methods without a face to face chance of rejection.
The biggest aspect of online flirting is to have a lot of fun! Be as much light-hearted, funny and entertaining and you can be. If you make her laugh she will want to talk to you again and again. Make her eager to talk to you again. Flirting is being very playful.
When flirting, you need to transmit that you are very confident. Successful flirts have a positive emotional outlook on life. You need to transmit the "I feel good inside" factor and the women will pick this up and feel good inside too. An optimistic attitude attracts females like honey attracts flies.
Using the approach of cocky and funny works wonders with women. Make some fun of her but in a very funny way. This creates attraction with most women because most men are too scared to be cocky. Confident men are happy in their skin and non needy around women. They can take a chance that the women could not see the funny side and just move on.
For example, lets say she compliments you on your photo. You can now tease her about wanting a relationship and moving too fast. This is funny as most women use the same logic with men and they say that men are coming on too fast. So switch it around and she will laugh.
Compliment her when you feel she deserves a good compliment but not just to please her like a wimpy, needy man. She will want to spend more time with you if you reward her and if she pays you a compliment say "thank you". Do not be self depreciating.
Most men talk to much and do not really listen to what she says and ask appropriate questions. It is good to get her to open up and talk about herself. It is good to reveal something more intimate about yourself so she feels safe to do this in turn. Make her feel like she is interesting and that you are interested in her. This works wonders!
Being rude in anyway just shows that you have a lack of control of your emotions. Flirting does not include being overtly sexually explicit nor taking offence or getting angry if the woman isn't responding to you well. If she isn't interested, take the hint and move on to the next prospect. If you get a lot of rejections, you should probably consider a different approach that incorporates more fun and being a little more cocky and in your masculinity.
After you chat online it is great to send an email. This ranks right up there with sending a thank you note for a gift and it is vital to successful flirting.
Take your time in building up attraction. Teasing and anticipation are great to build up the energy and vibs. Don't try to go too fast. Online Flirting is the first step to a successful relationship. Above all, have fun.
Mauice Tate is a qualified sexologist trained at the Advanced Institute of Sexology. See his site on body language signals and first kiss and french kissing technique.
By Joshua Goh
When you want to be a success in flirting, it all begins with the state of mind you are in. Some people are naturally people-oriented, who loves to spend time with friends and acquaintances, have a jolly good sense of humor and has a very natural way with those of the opposite sex.
These people make very successful flirts. Because you feel good about yourself, you make others feel good too. There is an obvious way to learn to be innocent and child-like at times.
You could master and use the skills of NLP to do these things – like use the swing in the park, jump in a puddle or spontaneously laugh at the smallest joke. You have to teach yourself to look at people not just as people but a convenient resource to open your doors to newer faces, newer ideas and newer challenges.
In some pursuits in life, the end justifies the means. In flirting too, forget what you will achieve, think how you can contribute in the connection just made. Stop worrying about what impressions you will create or what signals the partner will carry back home.
Instead concentrate what you can offer at that moment. Your brain gradually gets used to your style, through repetition. And soon all these will come naturally to you. When you have reached the status of a “natural successful flirt.”
Stop all pretensions. Be your natural self. As Sigmund Freud once said, “we leak truth from every pore”. Your pretensions do not last for too long. Remember, you can fool some people some time but can not fool all the people all the time.
Pretensions soon land you in a friend-less situation where opportunities become rare everyday. Needless to mention, you must show yourself in a good and pleasant light.
Success is jumping from one failure to another, till you reach your goal. As Bobby Charlton said “if you don't shoot you won't score, if you do shoot, you may score, if you never shoot you will never score".
Instead of feeling demotivated by your failures, try to analyze, what went wrong, what could you said wrong and rectify your behavior the next time. Do things a bit differently and regularly do an audit of your failures. Soon you will learn the tricks of the trade and act judiciously with lesser chances of a failure.
Try to fathom the impact of your flirting. Some women give those bedroom looks when all they want is friendship. Yet some other women send out some wrong welcome signals, when all they want is to draw your immediate attention. Study these subtleties carefully. You could practice some of your flirtatious “opening lines” in front of the mirror and check out yourself, whether you are making a fool of yourself. Consult your close friends and ask them to judge you and your actions. You will begin to understand the small nuances which make some people successful flirts.
During my teaching lessons on flirting, I hear a lot of men come up with “Give me a good chat up line”. Let me tell you that these so called “chat up lines” are now cliché and women have herd them repeated before. There is nothing as boring as hearing it one more time.
There is no strict formula which you can follow – you have to customize it yourself depending on your own personality and the situation that you are in. There is no alternative to sheer simplicity. A simple word of admiration, coming from you at the right time for the right person on a right occasion will do the trick.
One of my favourite, all time successful line is simply saying hello and walking past. Stop by to turn back and give one of those looks. Yes, that does it.
Try and develop a personality that is amicable and pleasing. Most importantly approachable. When you go out with a group of friends, extricate your self at times. The fear of rejection in front of a crowd sometimes scare away many prospective suitors.
Look warm and friendly. An aloof and cold look does not attract anybody. In turn, it puts off many potential people from your circle. And if you think that your actions are unconsciously giving out these cold, stiff signals, immediately adjust it and act more polite and genteel.
Don’t be overbearing. Give people adequate space to think, act and express themselves. I am sure you have met such people, who talk incessantly, boast and flaunt and never watches others’ reactions as if they were the only person in the room.
Watch how others react when you communicate. Watch the mouth, the eyes, the skin colour. Mouths get larger, lips swell, eyes widen, pupils dilate, skin flushes, changes colour, muscles around the mouth move and vice versa. These are tell-tale signals from others which tell you how you are faring with them.
Joshua Goh is dating & relationship expert. His desire is to motivate and support single men, women and couples to overcome the obstacles preventing them from attaining the loving relationships and lives they really want. For more information please visit our site for up-to-date free personals reviews and practical online dating tips & ideas.
Mar 21, 2008
Top 10 Flirting Lines to AvoidBy Claire Brent
The Internet is a world of language that requires some very serious communication skills in order to express yourself. It is, therefore, important that when you communicate with your online crush, you’re very careful to make sure that each of your communications is positive and deliberate. When it comes to dating online, it is very easy to date many people over a short amount of time. Dating, after all, involves getting to know a variety of people and then choosing one person to focus your attention on.
Because you need to be appreciative of language when you begin a relationship online, it is important that you understand the effects of your language. There are, in fact, a variety of things that should be avoided when you begin a relationship with someone online. Here is a short list of the Top 10 flirting lines that you should avoid when meeting someone online:
10. “I’m looking to get married pretty soon. Are you available?”
This line comes across as slightly desperate. Dating means that you try several people before choosing just one. Therefore, don’t rush things; date awhile.
9. “Do you have any STDs?”
While it’s important to learn about your partner’s sexual health, when you are barely even a couple, it is considered rude and presumptuous to ask about sexually transmitted diseases.
8. “Mothers really love me.”
While a line like that, it’s not surprising that you’re single. Be slow to show off the full breadth of your ego and make sure that the relationship is grounded in friendship before you talk about meeting the parents.
7. “Are you hot?”
While asking about a person’s physical looks (or temperature) may appear to be important, if you are going to build a lasting, sustainable relationship, it’s far better to start with questions about your mate’s personality and emotions.
6. “What’s Your Income?”
Yes, finances are important to many relationships, In fact, most relationships break up because of finances. However, if ou are going to have a solid relationship, it would be preferable to base it in things other than money.
5. “What Kind of Card Do You Drive?”
Just as income is important, so are reliable cars. However, it is vital that you start your relationship with questions that are most positive and down to earth than the car they drive…unless, of course, you meet in an automotive chat room.
4. “What do you look like?”
It is important to eventually find out about the appearance of your online crush. However, try to start simpler. Ask, instead, about matters of the heart. If things work out, then work your way towards asking learning more about physical appearance.
3. “Do you want to meet tonight?”
Even if you have a fabulous conversation with your online crush, it’s a bad idea to ask somewhat out of the blue for a meeting. Instead, work your way up to a meeting to ensure that you create a solid base.
2. “I hope you do drugs.”
It’s a wise idea to avoid meeting people online that do drugs. Not only will it be difficult to trust them, but when a major pick-up line involves narcotics, the relationship is likely not one that is built to last.
1. “Are you easy.”
Discontinue communication immediately if your online crush asks you if you are easy…unless of course you are looking for a one-night stand or purely physical relationship.
Online dating is an entirely new world that brings with it new risks and new opportunities. It’s important for you to learn the ropes of online dating in order to play the game strategically. Often, learning the ropes means that you will have to go through some bad online relationships in order to find some good people to date.
Take the journey and, by all means, enjoy the ride … especially when those cheesy pick-up lines are used.
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By Roshan De Alwis
Well, it seems that men are progressing nicely as far as keeping up to date with what women want. Men are out there everywhere being successful in making friends with women. This is great news if you're not interested in attracting her attention to you and possibly getting to know her in ways her friends don't particularly want to know her, I'm sure you know what I mean. Where there is a will there is a way, and the key to the way lays securely in the guy's ability to flirt. To meet a woman who has caught your eye, and maybe even your heart and getting her attracted to you requires some skillful flirting technique. Flirting tips for men that actually work are not so easy to come by. Many flirting tips for men found on the internet fail miserably in that they either have you end up playing the dependable guy friend she wants to turn to for advice on relationship problems or have you ending up coming across as the skirt chaser girls can't stand.
The intention of attraction to the opposite sex is a very natural thing in the scientific world of male sexuality. It is a fact that human beings are programmed for procreation. Wanting the female species to be physically attracted to you is not simply an indication of an over-inflated ego as some new age believers would like to have us believe. Flirting and the desire to master the finer points of the flirting technique is not an extension of our caveman roots, but a very natural basic instinct. The difference between successfully mastering the skills of the flirting technique and falling short of meeting this basic human instinct lies at point of the confidence of the male to meet and attract the woman of his desires.
Re-learning and discovering genuine flirting techniques is only fulfilling a very natural basic need. Knowing successful flirting techniques will empower you with the confidence necessary to attract the women you meet fulfilling you basic human needs.To highlight my points I will share just a few of the more necessary flirting tips for men here to show you how these genuine flirting tips for men will enhance your flirting technique without having you appear as the love rat girls runs from.
1. Use her name when you speak to her. "So Jane, how do you feel about joining me for dinner?" This is just plain good manners, not to mention that the use of her name is sending out a clear message that Jane is the woman this question was for, and not just anyone who would say yes.
2. Look into her eyes when you are speaking with her. Please don't creep her out and invade her space but men whose eyes stare directly into a woman's chest tend to become the focus of the joke when the girls get together to compare notes (I'm sorry guys, girls do, do that). Learning to look into her eyes and at her face when you meet her will train you to read the signs of interest or not, eventually you will relearn the instinct of knowing you have hit the mark or not.
3. Enjoy her smile, learn to enjoy her smile and you will find yourself naturally finding the things to say or do that make her smile. A woman feels great when she smiles; being the one that made her smile is a far more powerful foreplay technique than drooling on her chest. Be the one who can do something for her that she cannot do for herself, she can touch herself, (I know that's a little blunt, but true), but she has a much harder time trying to make herself smile.
These are just a few of the very basic flirting techniques that will fulfill your natural need to attract a woman attentions and desire. You will need to practice these, and re-learn a few more that seem to have been forgotten over these past few years with the suppression of discussion of the natural male sexuality.
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By David Wygant
Props are anything around you that help you to start a conversation. By using whatever is around you, it becomes much easier to establish contact with someone. You can ask questions, share points of reference, whatever you need to do to get the conversation rolling. Props work the same way that a “conversation piece” works in your living room. They can be used either as something to draw attention or as something to go back to when you have nothing else to talk about.
Either way, they take off a huge amount of pressure. Because it’s no longer just you and the other person. Now it’s you and the other person and something to talk about, which makes the whole process a lot less charged.
Props are the number one, most useable tool in your arsenal when it comes to meeting people. Best of all, they don’t even need to be your props. If someone has a great dog, go pet the dog. “What’s the name of your dog?” If someone in a café has a newspaper, you can ask, “Do you mind if I read that section when you’re done?” On an airplane, ask to borrow a pen. At a diner, ask someone if you can borrow the salt from their table. In a bank line, you can even use the lack of customer service on the part of the tellers as a prop. Why? Because it gives you something to talk about! And that’s what props are for.
They remove the most difficult part of starting a conversation. You don’t have to be clever. You don’t have to be funny. You don’t need to use a pick-up line. All you need to do is be open to your environment and find something to talk about. Get the ball rolling. Anybody can do it. It doesn’t matter if you short, fat, bald, whatever. Start using the props around you and you can meet someone today.
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By Peng Sheng Foo
One easy way to flirt with women online is by writing a fairy tale with her while you're chatting with her on MSN. (Or any other instant messaging program.)
Here's how to do it:
1) Tell her you're working on a masterpiece. Ask her if she would like to hear it.
2) Choose a basic story as your framework. (Knight saves princess, etc.)
3) Put her in the role of the princess. Put yourself in the role of the hero or knight. Stick her title in front of her name as you tell her the story to make it cuter. ("Princess Mary" or "Princess Joanne" or whatever.)
4) Start by saying "Once upon a time, there a princess called..."
5) Add yourself into the story.
6) Add a dumb guy you both know (or a famous person) as the villain.
7) Work mutual friends into the story as you can. (Have a buddy as the village idiot and her friend as the princess's maid, for example.)
8) Have the hero save the princess from the bad guy.
9) Tell her you haven't finished the story yet.
10) Use a tease-false-ending. "Robin John dumps Princess Marion onto the ground and rides off to the sunset alone."
11) Watch her whine and tell you how that's not the way it should be.
12) Ask her to come up with a better ending. She will.
13) Tell her you have to go and say something like "Sweet dreams. Dream about your prince, princess
How powerful is that technique? Well, you would have to put it to use to know it. Knowledge is nothing without action.
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By Michael Dat
Flirting is an art. Some of you guys are just blessed with the right wit and talent to do so. For those who are not so blessed, it is time to master this art of flirting. You might not need it now, but in years to come, you would probably regret for missing out with the thrill and fun of flirting with girls. Guys, learn how to flirt and approach women, and you will get the girl(s) of your dream in no time.
As you were chilling as the bar, you noticed a gorgeous girl as the corner of the room. She is THE girl. Now is the time to put your art and talent to great use.
Follow these simple tips to hook up with the right kind of girl:
#1 Smile
Put on your million-dollar smile and charm her. Smiling can bring out the confidence in you and you will give the immediate impression that you are approachable. A flirty smile would be one that is wider that the regular smile. How about practicing in a mirror to make your smile look more natural?
#2 Get some eye contact
Before you walk up to her and say hi, try to make eye contact with her. It is just rude to stare or ogle. Just give her a quick glance, and look away. Women are put off by men who constantly stare 'below'. So avoid doing this at all costs.
#3 Time to walk up to her
This is the chance for you to introduce yourself to her. As you walk to her, maintain a good posture and this will make you more confident. A courteous approach is sometimes all you need. Women love confident men.
#4 Start talking
Break the ice with a small chat. It might be pretty tough to start the ball rolling. But, giving a compliment would usually help. However, do take note that it can be pretty rude and inappropriate to give a compliment on certain parts of the body. Find something you can complement on such that it makes you sound sincere. Pay attention to what she has to say. If you show interest, she'll feel 'interesting'.
#5 Make her laugh
Women love to laugh. So make her happy, and she will find your presence highly entertaining. Try to tell her a good joke. However, avoid sharing dirty jokes. While some girls might like it, some will just brush you off. So, don't take the chance. Just prevent yourself from blurting dirty jokes. At the same time, try to be spontaneous in humouring her. If all you do is tell her an endless list of jokes, she will find that you are just an entertainer. It would not appeal her much.
#6 Patience, my friend, is a virtue
You have to take things slowly. Some ladies need a lot more time to show interest in you. If you don't get the desired attention from her immediately, don't give up yet. Don't show her the signs of frustration. Keep being yourself and you may never know what might happen next.
Flirting is ain't that tough. Just give yourself more time and practice. Older ladies usually enjoy a good flirt, so you might want to start by practicing on these women to further your talent. Have a flirty good time!
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The Art Of FlirtingBy Oh Srichaphan
Rule Number One: Just because you’re good at batting your eyelashes, DOES NOT make you a good flirt. Flirting really is an art. It requires a carefree heart and a whole lot of practicing because not everybody is a natural flirt. Oh and Rule Number Two: You may think you’re a natural flirt but truth is, you don’t have a clue. So practice!
Flattery works but only if you really mean what you say so be sincere. Make eyes contact and look them in the eyes when you talk to a person, not one of those overly sexual or inviting stares though. Do a double take by doing that you’re saying something caught your attention and this person will want to know what you see. And it’s ten times more flattering than any nice words.
Pay attention to the person, ask questions about them so they know you’re interested. Once you’re hitting it off with the person fabulously you might want to turn your attention somewhere else. Just to keep them wanting more but don’t be a tease. Also keep it cool, don’t cling or monopolize one person all night long. Wait for them to indicate their desire to continue to be with you. Last, be a good flirt. Flirting with everyone or looking bored could make it seem like you’re just killing time. A flirt needs to be playful but you don’t want to come across as a player.
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By Richard Rafferty
Signs a woman is flirting can be confusing, this is because they may just be outgoing or bubbly and some men can't tell whether they are flirting or just having a good time. One thing is for sure though if you make a move on them and they aren't flirting with you, they will let you know very quickly. But don't worry you won't be the first, or the last guy to get a slap for getting the signals mixed up.
Yes, it would probably be easier if women just came out and told you that they found you attractive or that they wanted you to ask them out, but this is all part of the mating ritual.
Good signs that a woman is flirting are when she constantly plays with her hair or tips her head slightly to the side whenever you get close to her. Another signs of her flirting is when she keeps touching you, whether this is a simple arm stroke or hand stroke. Just remember, just because she is flirting with you doesn't mean that she wants you to jump all over her there and then.
Don't assume anything with women, doing this will only end in disaster. If a woman is interested in you she will show constant attention towards you, this may be in the form of raising her voice slightly when having a conversation so that you look at her, this way she catches your eye.
Working environments are slightly different and can be a minefield for sexual harassment cases. The easiest thing to do if you suspect a work colleague of flirting with you is to approach her out of office hours, this way you are on neutral ground. An office romance may start with internal emails which start off work related and get a little more personal (first name or asking how you are). Again, if you find yourself in this situation, take it out of the office even if it's just going for your lunch break at the same time.
There are so many ways that you can determine whether she is interested in you, be careful not to come on to strong - nobody likes a stalker.
If you would like to know more about flirting with women then you should continue reading. I will also share with you just how I went from getting my face slapped more times than I care to remember to getting phone numbers every time I went out.
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By Guy Katir
Love making is historically and traditionally defined as the activity between a man and a woman involving physical contact between both the bodies leading sometimes to a sexual intercourse. You flirt with a woman when you express a sexual or romantic interest in the woman that you are flirting with.
It is actually a complex cycle which starts with a person flirting with a woman to find out if she is interested in a longer courtship which could eventually result in marriage. The activity of love making comes in periods during this cycle which allows the man and the woman to express their passion by kissing or by any other form of bodily contact.
Before a man starts making love to a woman, it is extremely important for the man to know if he has the woman’s consent for the act. This could be done verbally or through eye and body gestures. Not having this consent would even lead the man landing up in legal tangles with the possibility of the woman filing a lawsuit against the man quite high.
There is no rule book for you on how to flirt. One thing to note is your objective of flirting. If you are flirting just for the sake of it then it is fine to be casual. If you are flirting with an eye of building relationship with a woman, you would need to be careful. You would need to respect her dignity. Just in case the woman objects to the flirtish behavior of yours, you must immediately stop and apologize to her.
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By Maurice Tate
Many of the same techniques that work for normal flirting work well in online flirting. After all, most relationships begin with some sort of flirting. In fact, online flirting works very well at developing your flirting skills, because most men lack confidence to flirt at all.
There are many more men on online dating sites than women. An attractive women gets a lot of emails from a lot of men. She has to sort out the real men from the wimps.
One great way of separating yourself from most men is to take a chance and learn to flirt and tease well in a very funny way.
Flirting is an art that requires oozing confidence without being over the top. If you go too far, she will label you "sleazy" If you don't go far enough, she will label you "wimpy". So how do you achieve that point half way between sleazy and wimpy?
When online flirting you do not have the advantage of using using your eye contact or your body language. All you have is a computer an internet connection and membership in an online dating site.
In some ways that is an advantage to be online as you can try new methods without a face to face chance of rejection.
The biggest aspect of online flirting is to have a lot of fun! Be as much light-hearted, funny and entertaining and you can be. If you make her laugh she will want to talk to you again and again. Make her eager to talk to you again. Flirting is being very playful.
When flirting, you need to transmit that you are very confident. Successful flirts have a positive emotional outlook on life. You need to transmit the "I feel good inside" factor and the women will pick this up and feel good inside too. An optimistic attitude attracts females like honey attracts flies.
Using the approach of cocky and funny works wonders with women. Make some fun of her but in a very funny way. This creates attraction with most women because most men are too scared to be cocky. Confident men are happy in their skin and non needy around women. They can take a chance that the women could not see the funny side and just move on.
For example, lets say she compliments you on your photo. You can now tease her about wanting a relationship and moving too fast. This is funny as most women use the same logic with men and they say that men are coming on too fast. So switch it around and she will laugh.
Compliment her when you feel she deserves a good compliment but not just to please her like a wimpy, needy man. She will want to spend more time with you if you reward her and if she pays you a compliment say "thank you". Do not be self depreciating.
Most men talk to much and do not really listen to what she says and ask appropriate questions. It is good to get her to open up and talk about herself. It is good to rev