Apr 4, 2008
3 Secret Flirting Tips For GuysBy Kurt Dight
There are three flirting tips for guys you can use immediately to have more success with women. Specifically they deal with how to use confidence appropriately, how to balance it with humor, and finally how to communicate yourself as romantically interesting to women. Believe it or not, every kind of flirting fits into these three categories. We will examine each of these categories in-depth, and after reading this article you will have many specific flirting tips.
For guys who have trouble attracting women, confidence is usually the problem. Let's examine flirting tips for guys in the area of confidence. If you make a study of the guys who attract many beautiful women, you will find one thing in common. Their confidence is as close to down right cocky and arrogant as can be without crossing that fine line.
Here's how they get away with it. They mix it with humor. So for example, let's say there's a certain physical attribute you are insecure about. Think about it, and write it down. Next, I want you to figure out how you can turn it into a strong point. Stay with me here because this is one of the most powerful flirting tips for guys you will ever read.
Here's an example. One of my students had a gap in his front teeth. We came up with an idea, which he used to approach a woman at an art show. This is what he did. He went up to a beautiful woman and struck up a conversation about the sculpture she was looking at. Then he said to her, "I love your hair but I don't date smokers."
The women looked confused. She asked him why he would say that because she doesn't smoke.
He replied, "Oh, I thought you did because of how your teeth looked." He said this with a big smile, intentionally exposing his gap tooth. This got her to come back on him and mention to him that his teeth weren't exactly perfect. This is what he was waiting for. He said, "Yeah, but that's part of my charm, it makes me more attractive. I know you agree."
Almost all the flirting tips for guys we discussed are contained in this dialog. Confidence to approach a woman is one of the best flirting tips. Humor to show her you comfortable with yourself, but also aren't too serious to seem arrogant deals with the second area of flirting tips for guys.
However, there is one key area of flirting tips for guys you must know for a scenario like the above to be more effective. It deals with how you communicate yourself through body language.
Know this: roughly 90% of our communication is non-verbal. So what does this mean as far as flirting tips for guys goes? It means if you say something funny and/or confident, but your body language shows you are nervous with it, or that you aren't sincere about it...
It won't work.
So how should you carry yourself when flirting? Tips for guys to use are to breathe deeply and slowly from the stomach. Keep the shoulders upright and smile naturally. This is for starters. Now here is some flirting tips for guys dealing with body language that are worth their weight in gold.
Simply find someone to study who is a master at seduction. If you don't know someone in real life, rent James Bond movies. Now observe their mannerisms when talking to women. Next, simply copy their body language. Now use this tip along with the tips for confidence and humor, and you are on your way to getting more dates.
We have only scratched the surface of flirting tips for guys. I urge you to practice what we have covered here, but also to seek out more information. The more you know about how to approach a woman and what to say, the better your chances for success. So get out there and learn more flirting tips for guys!
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By James V
Things done subconsciously play the key role in man-woman relationship and often are the determining factor in how they perceive each other. First impression is the strongest and most long lasting – experts say it only takes little less than two to four minutes to arrive at a decision whether one likes a person or not. Body language is hugely responsible for all impressions we make on other people. For this reason body language and flirting are absolutely inseparable from each other.
The way somebody walks or stands may leave a great impression on other person. People tend to make snap judgments about others, so body language and flirting can be interwoven intricately. Since the body does the talking and also the flirting, one may be able to judge whether a person is flirting or not by studying these signs.
Understanding body language is not so simple, and it should not be judged by only one thing. One should not jump into conclusions too fast. There are certain signals given off by a person, and knowing these body language and flirting signs, one may be able to judge whether someone is flirting or not. The first signal one should look at is the flirting triangle or when people that are not too well known to each other, move their eyes in a zigzag motion. The body language in a flirtatious situation will see the eyes widening at the bottom to include the body as well as the face. Intense flirting will often result in eye to eye contact as well as looking long and hard at the mouth.
Mirroring a person’s behavior is another body language and flirting sign that means that there is quite a bit of attraction involved, since it implies being at the same level of attraction. One more body language and flirting sign is when someone raises their eyebrows and lets them fall. If a person is flirting, he or she would also raise the eyebrows in return. Be sure to catch this sign as it usually is only fleeting, lasting a bare fifth of a second!
Another body language and flirting signal indicating that one person is attracted to another is their body pointing in the direction of the person to whom they are attracted. Pointing one’s body in the direction of another is a subtle way of communicating strong attraction, and the other person may take the hint. Blinking is one more body language and flirting sign: if a person likes another, he or she will generally try to match the other’s blink rate and keep in sync with it, which is both fun as well as increases the attraction for the other.
However, one should never jump into conclusions or misinterpret body language and flirting signs. The best thing to do in order to avoid mistakes is to look for grouped behavior patterns which together add up to being a signal that a person is indeed attracted and is actually flirting.
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By James V
You might be surprised by knowing this, but flirting skills are a natural thing that every person has or can achieve at some point in their lives. Flirting is individual, and there is no right or wrong way – as long as a person has the ability to express how they feel about someone, they don’t need any special flirting skills. Flirting has been around as long as people have, because it is the basis of what was once known as courtship, i.e. the way people demonstrated their attraction to another person.
Throughout the years, flirting has changed in its nature, as it has gone from very proper and official for serious relationship prospects to flirting with anyone who may be somewhat attractive and spark someone’s interest. While there is no scientific basis to flirting skills, there are a number of things that have proven to be effective in most cases. The following tips can enhance flirting skills for both males and females.
Flirting Skills for Women
If a woman is flirting, she can do a great deal to get a man’s attention. Confidence seems to be what almost all men say they find attractive in a woman. Women who exude confidence tend to be set in their ways and beliefs, and a guy can count on them having an opinion and thus interesting interactions. Also, when a man gives a girl a compliment, he expects it to be appreciated openly.
Eye contact is also important when it comes to flirting. You need to let your interest know that you are pursuing them without a doubt. Some say the eyes are the windows to the soul, and hence letting someone see that will undoubtedly spark their interest. Dropping hints about someone’s appearance or characteristics is another way to let the person know you are interested. Finally, a gentle touch on the shoulder or the back can be appropriate, but can also be risky as some people will shy away from touch and become offended. It is a fine line, and you should feel if it would be appropriate for the person and situation.
Flirting Skills for Men
Men are frequently at risk for being too overt or offensive when it comes to flirting with women, but there are ways to attract a woman’s attention without causing affront. Because women are intuitive, men don’t have to do much to show they are interested. A little compliment goes a long way, and that is often the key to getting her attention.
Even though women love to be told they are beautiful or attractive, smart or intelligent, they will appreciate compliment only if it is genuine. Women like to be doted over, but not too much because it then becomes annoying and appears fake. A light hand on the shoulder or back can make her melt, but in good time.
Avoid rushing into a physical dimension of flirting as it is often considered aggressive and even offending, and will turn her off quickly. Convey your attraction with your eyes – let her see that sparkle of genuine interest in your eye. After you established the desired communication, you can move forward accordingly.
There are no universal flirting skills, and each person has its own ways to flirt. But in any case it requires little intuition and determination to make it work.
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By David King
When it comes to flirting, you can get your point across very easily just using your eyes. Take a moment and watch people who are in love. See how they look at each other - they stare directly into each other's eys for extended periods of time. Look at mere friends. See their eyes? They seem to flit back and forth, making eye contact, but never extended eye contact.
What do I mean by extended eye contact? Holding someone's gaze for 1-2 seconds. Looking deep into their eyes for that time. I realize that couples may look at each other in this way for longer periods of time, but remember they are ALLOWED to do this - they are a couple. For our purposes, you are just flirting.
If you were to try and stare into some girl's eyes for long periods of time (especially if you don't know her), she will think that you're staring at her and she'll think that you're strange (because you're making her feel uncomfortable).
The goal here is to make eye contact with her, and to hold her attention by looking straight into her eyes for a couple of seconds so that she gets the idea that you're interested in her.
Be sure to smile, or to at least have a partial smile on your face as you do this. If you stare at her like this with a stone face, you'll freak her out. She'll either think that you're mad at her, or that you're just some type of psycho (both are bad).
If she seems to quickly look away, she is either playing hard to get, or she doesn't have an interest in you. Either way, if you feel that she's worth the effort, you will probably have to persue some decent conversation with her.
If you have found this article interesting and want to learn more, you should check out David's website at www.christcentereddating.com, to learn more about flirting, talking to women or other specific tips and "how-to's" on finding the woman of your dreams.
David King is the author of the book entitled "How to Find the Woman of Your Dreams" which is available on his website, http://www.christcentereddating.com
His goal is to help Christian guys find the the beautiful woman that God has for them, using Biblical principles and natural techniques that honor and develop a real relationship with Jesus Christ.
He has also written content for a number of different websites including http://www.bigbrothersadvice.com
By Christine Akiteng
Don't you just hate it when your best friend goes out to the Chinese groceries store two blocks away or to the apartment laundry in the basement and half an hour later comes with three telephone numbers and a dinner date with some hot guy when all you get is "not interested" signals even from guys you'd normally think of as straight "A" losers.
What about those women who never seem to remain single for more than three months? You know the ones who slip out of one rich dude's arms into the life of another gorgeous humanitarian with the heart of gold? What is it that some women have over guys that the rest of us don't have? What is their secret? What is that they do that makes guys want to be with them?
Their secret is that they let guys know that they are interested and available. While the rest of us are "playing hard to get" or throwing ourselves at anyone who happens to look our direction, these "hot" women know exactly what it is they want and don't hesitate letting him know.
But how you might ask. How do I let a guy know I am into him without looking foolish if he is not into you? Most of us fold in when we see someone we’re interested in because we assume that they’re probably looking for someone young and drop dead gorgeous. But having worked with many singles over the years, I have almost come to the conclusion that “the better looking you are the more hard work you have to do”. No one will come near you unless you make it incredibly obvious that you want them to.
Apparently there are ways to say "I am available, just name the place and time" without looking desperate. YES!!! There are ways to stand out of a crowd and still retain your sense of "dignity". It is called flirting.
Research has shown that there are certain qualities that make a woman stand out even without the high heels or the mini black dress. Guys we're told have biological "sex" radars and can literally sense the "sexiest' woman as soon as she sets foot in a room.
Incredible isn't it? While we women are into getting to know him - his sign in the zodiac line up, his favourite colour, his deepest fear, his mother's maiden name and all that kind of other stuff - men's radars are in the air picking up signals from some hot mama who has just stepped into the room.
So, if you want to get him - and keep him - you apparently have to learn to speak his language. I have listed here the top five qualities that were volunteered by the men and confirmed by some "sexy" women. I have used all of them quite a few times and gotten 150% OVER-KILL. Even if they do not get you the man of your dreams - immediately - they will make your life a little more fab and dating truly a jungle game.
A woman with the sex appeal that oozes from every pore of her skin has got these qualities, apparently:
1. She looks like she is having fun. Being predictable and boring is a cardinal sin when it comes to dating - and all relationships. Whether we like it or not, people are very attracted to other people who look like they are enjoying themselves. A woman who isn't afraid of life drags everyone with her. Men look at her and want a piece of "HER".
Develop an upbeat and positive attitude and get in touch with and be aware of your own sexual energy. Beyond that, develop a fun and a child-like quality about you and share a bit of that with the rest of the world. A little "playful teasing" is one great way to arouse interest. When it's obvious that you should start acting like a clingy bug instead just lean back as if you've got all the time in the world. This can take seduction to the next level...
2. She is confident but not self-absorbed to the extent that no one and nothing else matters but her. She is mindful of how she looks but not obsessed with her looks. In other words she is "hot".
You do not have to be classically beautiful by societal standards to be inexplicably hot. It all has to do with the perception you have about yourself and all the ways in which you display yourself. Loving yourself in a healthy way is actually an important factor in convincing others that you are one hot mama.
3. She makes someone feel like they're are the only person in the room who matters. She looks him in the eye, really listens, calls him by his name and focuses on what he is saying.
What more can I say, the eyes have it. Let your eyes peak deep into his soul and move him like he's never been moved before. Use your fingers to draw attention to your eyes and to keep his gaze focused on you - and you alone. When the exchange is taking place in cramped conditions, simply touch your nose or gently rub your cheek while one finger points at either eye. Power gaze him down.
4. She touches a lot. When someone touches us, we like them even more. If you're stingy with your affection others assume you are cold, hard to know - and uptight.
If you are already familiar with the the "mirroring" technique, add the "touch-anchoring" technique to it and he will never figure out why three weeks later he rubs his hands against his sleeves and still smells your perfume even when he has on a different shirt from the one he wore that "fate-full" night. This touching extends to touching yourself. Touch yourself to draw attention to your most flattering features - and when combined with looking at him in the eyes - Houston we have a problem!!!
5. She knows her body and is aware of it. I am talking body-talk. If you've been getting the looks but no action, you probably need tune up your body language; the way you walk, what you're wearing and the vibes and waves you send.
Got the Dolly Parton cleavage going on try the "Oh! My God, you are hilarious" hand -over-boobs thingy whenever he says something funny. And laugh deeply so those "babies" hiccup like an earthquake rocking the Himalayas. And if you are Beyonce bootilcious, going to the lady's room as often as you can is actually a good thing. Seductively turning with a swing and a sweeping glance that ends on your junkside and then rolling and bouncing what your mama gave you can wreak bloody havoc on even the most composed of them.
Flirting really is quite easy if you think of it as soft marketing and all it takes is the right attitude and a willingness to take a few risks and make things happen. Next time you are out and get the urge to flirt his pants off, literally, be impulsive and try something unpredictable and wildly interesting.
And hey, let me know how it goes...
About the Author: Christine Akiteng is an internationally renowned Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of e-Books: The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness, Breaking A Bad Relationships Pattern, and Playing Hard-To-Get The Love Way.
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